Do you have hobbies that take you out of the house? Try to build a circle of friends first, sounds like you need experience maintaining relationships in general. Once you are sociable and can make friends, then maybe start looking for romantic partners. Immediately joining a dating app is going to fail if you have nothing interesting about yourself to talk about. Volunteer at your local shelters (human or animal), join a run club, book club, etc. You need to be at peace being alone, because you are competing with your partner’s peace. Learn to bring something to the nonexistent table

since you don't want the stereotypical dating advice, here's my honest opinion as a 32 year old guy. you aren't young, people our age have already mentally developed into who they will be for the rest of their lives. you have a well above average attractiveness level and have no excuse to not see results when it comes to dating. i've seen some of my woman friend's dating apps, you could easily be talking to hundreds of men a day and have infinite options. the problem is your choices on these options and the people you are taking the time to explore. women in general are just extremely picky, and have an almost delusional sense of what's the best for them (they often don't). grow up and stop looking for the perfect guy, he doesn't exist. choose another actual human you can realistically see yourself with every day. not the guy with a 6 pack or the emotionally engaging guy who gives you instant butterflies. or you can do the same thing every Instagram spammer preaches about. telling yourself you have infinite time. pretending like you're happy, when you know something is missing. ignoring the emotional hole by investing yourself into a career, hobby, and friends.

your feeling is totally valid, and I get fatigue of being lonely sometime... it is natural... 30M here, started dating at 28 after a difficult time (fighting in a war...) so it started pretty desperate to find someone fast when beforehand I didn't really feel the need to find someone... can say that in two years and having like a dozen date and 3 relationship, this year I got more serious at searching, opened an account in okc, and planning on opening other accounts in other app, I go to dating events, I make more friend and tell them that I search for a relation, give my number to people in dating event so if they maybe know someone who might fit, I go out more to musical/other events to know more people and widen my circle. and on top of that I ask people out I simply like (how they look/behave) without thinking too much. with time I learned what question to ask, what to concentrate on, how to save my time and effort. the more you try, the more you experience, the closer you get to someone that fits you. sometime it was almost it, but there is certain stuff I won't agree to (like for example if someone try to force me into being religious, that a red line) there isn't very much to it, work on yourself, live your life, in spare time go out and try to find new people, I personally put less time in doing what I'm passionate about to find a partner, but when I'll find her I will be putting more time in what I'm passionate about. wish you good luck, and don't worry you will find someone, it just take times to get the right one.