The important thing you can do for her is to keep showing up and letting her know that you are there for her without putting any pressure on her to feel better or get better for your sake. A few things that can be helpful are: asking her what she needs from you at that moment of trying to fix everything. Sometimes she might need something to take her mind off things sometimes she might just need you to hold her. Sometimes she might just need you to be there with her in silence. It is better to follow her lead and do what she needs than doing what you think will make her feel better. When it comes to her fear of medication you do not have to convince her of anything. You can ask her what she is afraid of and let her know that you will go with her to see a doctor if she ever wants to talk about it. Having you there with her can make the conversation feel less scary. Also you need to make sure you are taking care of yourself. Supporting someone who is going through a time can be really hard, on you and you cannot help her if you are not okay yourself. So it is really important that you have people who can support you too because the person who is supporting someone needs support as well.

Asking her if she’s ok can be a layered question & might not yield much of a response. Tell her what you’ve been noticing, maybe ask her about what helps her when she feels down, hopefully she has a support system, including therapist or psychiatrist

Consider this. Sometimes, people just want to be heard and comforted. The last thing they want while they are subsumed with difficult emotions is a list of suggested solutions. Just be there for her and comfort her. Don’t try to “solve the problem.” I know that sounds hard (and it is) but it validates her feelings at a time when she needs support more than anything.